Generational living, otherwise known as sandwiching, is quickly becoming a common trend across North America. Adults will have both their children and their parents living inside a three-bedroom home – it can be difficult to adjust to, even though it was ubiquitous decades ago.
Oftentimes, sandwiching can be a grand success. Sometimes, sandwiching doesn’t work out.
If it isn’t possible in your home, and you have aging parents, then there is one other option: retirement homes, or assisted living communities. Retirement homes have drastically transformed in recent years. They have gone from drab and dreary environments to modern, fun, and affordable atmospheres.
You may be interested in this idea, but your parents may be apprehensive. To come to a proper conclusion and compromise, you need to sit down with your senior father and/or mother, and then determine what they want.
Here are five tips to discuss retirement homes with your aging parents:
1. Outline the Options They Have
Once you have performed the necessary research, asked the right questions, and crunched the numbers, you need to sit down with your aging parents and outline the options they have.
Put down your list on the table and see what they think. To the best of your ability, answer any questions they may have, work out any concerns they may have, and listen to their needs.
2. Find Out What They Want
Your aging parents have certain needs and wants. So, with this in mind, find out what they are.
They want to live in a specific community. They want to reside in a specific type of unit. They want to have plenty of freedom. They still want to see their family.
There are so many things they desire in life, and they have become accustomed to a kind of lifestyle. Therefore, moving into a retirement home can be hard to adapt to, and you must sympathize with their hesitations.
3. Always Keep Your Parents in Loop
Should they concur to move into a retirement home, it is your job to keep your parents in the loop from the very beginning. You can’t and shouldn’t just pick any retirement home and tell your father or mother that they will be living there.
Not only would they be appreciative and more inclined to move into a retirement community, they will be a lot more confident and determined to make it a successful transition.
4. Identify What-If Scenarios
There are so many scenarios that you need to mull over should your older mother or father, aunt or uncle, grandmother or grandfather relocate to an assisted living facility. You may not be able to think of any, but they certainly will.
That said, you should identify all of the potential situations, and then game plans as to how to react to those scenarios.
5. Go for Trial Runs with Your Aging Parent
Do you and your senior parents have a shortlist of retirement homes? Well, the next step to take is to go for trial runs: participate in tours, have a lunchtime meal, stroll through the neighbourhood, and speak with others in the retirement community.
By doing this, your older relatives can get a first-hand look at everything, which will enable them to make up their mind, whether it is positive or negative.
Retirement homes are comfortable, neoteric, and attentive. All over the city and the rest of the region, there are many retirement communities that are in great condition and generated impressive reviews and testimonials. Heck, you may even want to move in with your parents!
Unfortunately, there may be concerns, apprehensions, and worries for aging parents before they agree to spend the rest of their days in a retirement home. It is your responsibility to collaborate on this transition right from the very start, even if there is a bit of hesitation throughout.
Sit down, discuss, research. If you do this together, there won’t be any hard feelings.